As parents or even responsible adults, at some point in a child’s life, we are required to step back and allow our children the space to not only make their own choices, but also the space to deal with the consequences; right or wrong, good or bad.
The cold or unfortunate truth of that is that we are not responsible for the choices that our children make. We are not responsible for stopping them making mistakes, or for protecting them at all costs from the results of their actions and choices.
Instead, we are there to nourish and nurture, to guide and teach, and to hold space for them as they grow and walk the path that is laid out before them through each and every choice they make for themselves.
You see, I have this thing in my family where you deal with the choices that you make, right or wrong, good or bad, with the full power of responsibility. What this means is that although I feel deeply for any pain and suffering, if you make a mistake; e.g get arrested because you did a bad thing; my advice is going to be to plead guilty and make amends as best as you possibly can in front of the court.
In essence this means that I am not about finding loop holes or spinning the truth. I’m about owning your choices whether they be right or wrong and whether they turned out to be good or bad. And I am about teaching my children ownership and personal responsibility no matter how uncomfortable it may be; for me or for them.
From the outside in, it could look like a hard line to take, a tough parenting style if you will. And yet, What’s better, someone who owns all of their being, their choices, their actions? Or someone who takes little to no responsibility?
So here we are, back at the start, with a inference to take a step back and allow children the space to make choices for themselves, and the space to process the consequences of those choices. You can begin small, with choosing anything from haircuts to wearing odd shoes; SHOES! That brings up a memory of one of my boys wearing a pair of my heels to pre-school? ; from climbing higher and higher, to not fulfilling a commitment they made. The space and allowance of choice and responsibility, will develop greater confidence and ownership of their entire being; you teach them how to create their life!
Place that within your awareness, develop a greater understanding of teaching choice and responsibility to your children, and remember, as hard and painful as it may be, it’s not your job to control the choices of your children. It’s not your job to take ownership or responsibility for their choices, and it’s not your responsibility to get them off the hook.
What is your responsibility is teaching them! For right or wrong, for good or bad, it’s your job to teach them, and it’s their job to walk their own path with as much personal power as permitted. ✌️?
With Love & Blessings,
Author: Gemma Rose Green is a Psychic Intuitive Holistic Healer, focusing on the mind, body, soul and spirit, & a Badass Life Coach, with a passion for family & generational healing. She is also an Author, Writer, Creator & Witch, dedicated to inspiring a healing revolution from within, promoting self & generational healing, through the power of voice & communication, accountability & acceptance.